The challenges of caring for a young baby intensify if your baby is very fussy or cries a lot. Relationships can become strained between
parents and baby; between parents; and between parents and other family
members, especially other caregivers. Older brothers and sisters may feel
resentful, ignored, helpless, or sometimes even guilty because of a vague sense
that they are to blame for the baby's behavior. It is also normal to be
disappointed and angry with the baby. Taking good care of yourself is important
to help minimize the potential negative impacts that crying and fussiness can have on you and
other family members.
Keep your perspective. The first step in self-care is
regaining a sense of control. Accept that it's normal to be frustrated.
Avoid acting impulsively. Take precautions so that you don't become so frustrated that you might hurt your baby, even unintentionally.
Child abuse and neglect can seriously and permanently
harm your child's physical and mental health. If you are afraid that you might
hurt your baby,
get help immediately. Call a friend or neighbor to
come over. If nobody is available and you are feeling out of control, call
Anticipate trouble times. If your baby has colic, he or she will likely
develop a crying pattern. Typically, babies cry more during the late afternoon
or early evening, although the timing can vary. Schedule a relative, friend, or
neighbor to come over a few times a week when you expect a crying episode to
begin. Having support and sharing caregiving responsibilities can help you stay
calm and manage your feelings more effectively. Babies pick up on your
frustrations, which can make them cry more.
Nurture your family relationships. Communicate openly with your partner and other
caregivers about your feelings and concerns, or talk
with a friend or your doctor. Also, spend individual time with
your other children. It can be short—a trip to the store or a walk around the
block. Talk to them about their feelings and how they are coping with the
baby's fussy times. Consider ideas on what they can do when the baby is upset,
such as play in the backyard or visit a neighbor's house.
Spend time on yourself. Do something you enjoy, even
if only for a short time. This could be dining out, visiting a friend, getting
a massage, reading, gardening, or exercising.
Remember, your baby will gradually
grow out of colic and other fussy behaviors.
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